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ROLE OF THE PARENTS IN NURTURING VALUES AMONG CHILDREN IN PRESENT SCENARIO

values are the ideas and beliefs people cherish with. They are the integral part of the personal philosophy of life which includes our aims, ideals, manners of thinking, and the principles by which we guide our behavior and conduct our affairs.They are the conscious and unconscious motivators and justifies of the actions of human beings.

When a baby is born, it is only a biological entity thrown into the lap of the society. In the process of growth it develop;s "Self" and learns to respond through it. We can say that the foundation stone of child's personality is laid as soon as his "Self" develops. when this self comes in contact with outer reality, slowly "Inner self" also expands. Human personality is the result of interaction between the "self' and the environment and similarly the inclusion of values in the children.

It was rightly said that values are caught not taught. In inculcation of values parents are the first people who influence them. The child acquires values with in the family from parents, family members, siblings and outside through peer group, teachers and ultimately the environment in which they live. Values among the children mainly depend upon the parental values their attitudes, thought process, parental brought up,rearing practices at home, and philosophy of life. it is from the parents the child learns social, moral, ethical, religious values apart from laws of the land, acceptable and unacceptable behavior patterns.

Good values among children help to solidify the foundations for a strong, tight knit family, develop self confidence and self-esteem in children enhancing happiness among them. modern society is in the state of flux. Our cultural values which are the gracious fruits of centuries of cooperative effort and moral values, which distinguish men from the animals,have been totally changed in recent years.Our children now are living in spiritual vacuum. The sense of guilt, loss of confidence, is making the children cynical and rebellious.

Moral values have no respect now. Man fails to distinguish between right and wrong, good and evil. Highest respect is given to wealth and power. Religion has become a private affair. Human relations became impersonal and secondary. Man has become civilized savage.

In changing society the outlook of the parents towards life is also changing fast. It is very much influenced by western ideology and materialistic outlook. Money earned through legitimate means is not sufficient now a days. simplicity is far away from our lives. Excessive competition in society is promoting unethical practices. people lack transparency in work. Administrators lack sensitivity towards the problem of the people. There is widened gap between the rich and poor. Live and let others live was the motto of the people in ancient time. But the modern man being educated, employed lacks contentment in life. There is only one word in the dictionary of modern man I and the only I.

Modernization has widened the educational and employment opportunities. knowledge of family planning, savings for better life became the order of the day. The result is the small family norm. Parents are becoming over ambitious and they want to provide all the facilities to their children in spite of their hardships. They feel that they were already deprived of those privilege so why their children? this attitude of the parents laid more emphasis on providing material facilities to their children and fulfilling the demands of the children neglecting value inculcation.

Carl Gustav Jung says" if there is anything we wish to change in the child we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves." The captions in the news papers like " son tied the hands of the father and burnt him alive" "Man found dead laying on the road for two days","sixty years old man seduced six years old girl","fifteen years old boy stabbed his parents", definitely provoke our thinking, as all these brutal incidents talk of inhuman conduct which have root from the family. Now a days homes are not what they ought to be. It appears as if we are loosing our manners rapidly.

If the seeds of values are not sown in childhood, it is difficult to inculcate later. Mahatma Gandhi says "Character building is the Highest form of Education".For good character building, inculcation of superior values among the children in formative years is essential which is the prime duty of the parents.Our children must learn to appreciate goodness in others, be creative, fearless and silent when needed as they are the powerful instrument of social and national reconstruction.

The child imbibes values through imitation,observation, assessment, and evaluation in the family. If we want to arrest the growing indiscipline and intolerance in children a step in the right direction may save mankind from impending catastrophe because, tomorrow it may be too late. it is the need of the hour to comprehend the process of inculcation of habits, attitudes and sensibilities to imbibe good values among children.

A child miss-educated is a child lost Says John Fitzgerald Kennedy. if we want to develop good values home sweet home is the right place where values thrive and flourish. There are certain appropriate situations to teach values to the children at home.

situation--parent role child is able to sit-time for toilet training imitates words---acquaint with good vocabulary demands for what ever he looks atteach to withhold temptations refuses to give his belongings---teach sharing habit disturbs other things-teach to respect organization of things unable to keep things properly at hometeach orderliness brings others things home-teach to be honest and truthful hurry for something---teach to stay for his turn interrupts when elders are talkingteach to wait and not to interrupt until conversation stops criticizes friends and teachers--teach worthy aspect in them criticizes other religions---teach tolerance by enlightening good of that religion hurts others feelings-teach empathy talks about others sufferings-teach to share their pain doesn't want to work at home--teach him dignity of work misbehave with elders-teach to respect elders by telling their contribution to family show lack of self-confidence---develop faith in his abilities and supreme power fearful ---teach to introspect and analyze disturbed--teach to be calm

Apart from value inculcation in family, sensitizing youth in the schools, at colleges through seminars and workshops related to importance of values in life. Premarital and post marital counseling related to rearing practices of children, arranging awareness program mes for parents of tiny tots at school, re shaping entire educational system to suit present day need, giving a second thought for mad race towards science and technology without values, and constructive role of mass media in inculcating values through value oriented children s advertisements may serve the purpose.

Best training any parent can give a child is to train the child to train himself. so let us try to imbibe rich values among our tiny tots.